Just Because

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Just Because

 

Just Because

You can

Do it

 

It does not mean

It is

Good for you.

 

An old friend and colleague of mine, Fran Morris, used this statement often. At first it did not mean much to me, but the more I thought about it the more it made sense and became a practical tool.

 



 (Just because the steps are there, we don't have to climb them)

 

We can overwork, overspend and overextend ourselves. When we do, we limit our life satisfaction and create unnecessary stress in our lives.

 

As a couple or a family, each of us needs to do our share of tasks and carry our share of responsibility - our share, not our share and everyone elses' share. If I do everything I can do, then I am maybe setting the stage for others to do less than their share, and expecting that less to continue.

 





 (You don't have to get drenched unless you would enjoy it)

 

There is no simple way to examine whether what we "can do" is good for us. There is a standard however we can use to examine those issues. Whether it is a car we are considering purchasing or a chore we are considering doing then we might ask such questions as:

"What is good enough for me, for now? Have I done enough chores to rest? Is this car really in my price range?"

If it is "good enough for me for now" we are more likely to act responsibly and compassionately.